So the only way you really can empathize is to know their side of the story.
Men and women are different in many ways, but we’re more the same than you may think. We all have dating disappointments and horror stories.
Whatever the case, "just being friends" is simply not a viable way of relating to a man or woman you've been emotionally or sexually intimate with.
The severed emotional ties between you will prevent you from relating to each other in platonic ways for a long time to come - perhaps forever.
Now I only have limited information, but in past situations like this women have told me it stems from fear that he might have feelings for her or that he’s not totally over her.
Fear that she might do something to screw up your relationship with him.
As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.
(Guys, if you’re reading this…get in touch if you want to share!
He lent her a sum of money in the past which I think she still hasn’t paid back which could be a factor.
I feel that by keeping her in his life, he is being slightly disrespectful to me, as she clearly still has some kind of hold over him for him to put up with this.
Just like how you’ve dated your share of challenging types of men like the Pinger, the Couch Potato and the older-and-balder-than-his-profile-guy…men also meet and enter into relationships with less-than-impressive types of women.
I’ve talked to countless single men over the years about their experiences with women, especially those in their 40s, 50s and beyond.