And it argued that any kind of physical intimacy before marriage was a violation of the sacredness of married sexuality, and could lead to lifelong regret.became a phenomenon in conservative Christian circles. Joshua Harris shares his story of giving up dating and discovering that God has something even better- a life of sincere love, true purity, and purposeful singleness. Have you tasted pain in dating, drifted through one romance or, possibly, several of them? I Kissed Dating Goodbye shows what it means to entrust your love life to God.
For this reason we ask that you "copy-and-paste" or otherwise backup any content that you feel is indispensable.I was one of the many teenagers who bought into this way of life highlighted by Joshua Harris, but unlike most I actually read the book! The year was 1997, and I was in my senior year of high school. was to have a crush on a girl, we would hold hands, sit next to each other at lunch, pass some notes, share locker combinations, and after a couple of weeks or so move on.I had never officially “dated” a girl, though I did have a few girlfriends. At the time, I had yet to recognize my fear of intimacy and my fear of rejection.He also wrote that masturbation was sin, period, even in marriage, because sexual pleasure was always and only ever meant to be mutual, between spouses. And it scared the shit out of me and thousands of other evangelical girls. HARRIS: Honestly, I haven’t engaged that process of reading through the whole book and saying, this is what I think about all these different areas. But I think one of the things that I’m changing in my own thinking is I just think people – myself included – it’s so easy to latch on to a formula. You’ll be safe and you’ll be protected and you’ll be whatever. I don’t think that’s the way the life of faith works.I think one area I am seeing is that – where my book was used as a rule book to say this is the only way to do it. And so when we try to overly control our own lives or overly control other people’s lives, I think we end up harming people.